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S aat Anda sedang ngobrol dengan pasangan atau dengan teman pria ada kalanya tiba-tiba raut wajah mereka berubah. Bisa bingung, kesal atau marah. Hal itu bukan selalu karena pesan yang Anda sampaikan tetapi juga cara Anda menyampaikan pesan. Cara berkomunikasi pria dan wanita memang memiliki sedikit perbedaan. Perbedaan inilah yang sering membuat terjadinya kesalahpahaman.

Ada beberapa gaya berkomunikasi wanita yang tidak disukai pria. Allan dan Barbara Peaze, penulis buku “Why Men Don’t Listen & Women Can’t Read Maps”, mengungkapkan hal-hal tersebut.

1. Berpikir sambil berbicara

Pikiran wanita terprogram menggunakan kata-kata untuk mengekspresikan pemikiran. Jadi, jika ada beberapa pekerjaan yang harus dilakukan wanita cenderung akan mengungkapkannya lewat kata-kata seperti, "Habis dari bank harus ke rumah sakit, tetapi kantor nggak bisa ditinggal, bagaimana ya? Duh bingung"." Hal tersebut biasanya akan diungkapkan wanita pada orang-orang disekelilingnya. Sedangkan pria cenderung hanya berkata "Saya harus pergi nih, banyak urusan".

Pria merasa terganggu dengan hal itu karena mereka merasa ditarik ke dalam masalah dan terkadang dipaksa memberi solusi. Bagi pria, yang ada dalam pikiran sebaiknya dipikirkan sendiri saja bukan diutarakan langsung. Untuk mengurangi kebiasaan ini, cobalah mengungkapkan kesimpulan isi pikiran Anda. Jangan Anda lontarkan detailnya.

2. Berbicara banyak hal dalam satu cerita

Lalu-lintas informasi dalam otak kiri dan kanan wanita lebih intensif dibandingkan pria. Dalam bagian otak wanita ada bagian yang memungkinkan kita untuk berbicara banyak hal dalam satu cerita secara berkesinambungan dan kebiasaan ini tidak disukai kaum pria.

Karena, saat kita berbicara banyak hal yang berbeda dalam satu cerita, seringkali pria tidak mengerti. Tata bahasa kita pun jadi berantakan dan membuat yang mendengarkannya jadi bingung bahkan pusing. Untuk menghindarinya tetaplah fokus pada satu hal yang ingin Anda bicarakan.

3. Interupsi saat dia bicara

Meskipun interupsi sering dilakukan politisi pria tetapi mereka sebenarnya tidak suka diinterupsi saat berbicara. Pria saling menginterupsi ketika berada dalam kompetisi atau posisi terdesak.

Tetapi bagi wanita, menginterupsi pembicaraan bisa dilakukan kapan saja. Pria tidak suka diinterupsi karena saat berbicara mereka cenderung ingin mengungkapkan solusi masalah. Interupsi akan membuat pria kehilangan hasrat untuk bicara dan menurunkan moodnya. Untuk itu hindari menginterupsi pria, jika sedang berbicara santai dan tidak dalam suasana adu pendapat.

4. Bicara berbelit-belit

Saat ditanya suatu hal seringkali wanita menjawabnya dengan berbelit-belit. Kebiasaan ini biasanya dilakukan saat terdesak atau untuk menutupi masalah. Bagi pria hal itu sangat mengganggu karena mereka cenderung menginginkan jawaban dengan cepat. Untuk menghindari pembicaraan yang berbelit, cobalah untuk fokus pada hal yang ingin dibicarakan. Jangan membicarakan hal lain yang tidak ada hubungannya.

5. Diam untuk menunjukkan rasa tidak suka

Saat marah atau sedang kesal kita sering mendiamkan pasangan. Kondisi ini sangat tidak disukai pria karena bagi mereka rasa tidak suka lebih baik ditunjukkan secara jelas bukan dengan sikap diam. Karena, hal itu akan akan semakin membuat mereka bingung dan tidak mengerti sikap Anda.

When you prepare to be pregnant, so many things that you should consider. One of the things is to prepare a good nutrition for your body. By providing good nutrition for the body before pregnancy, this provides benefits not only for you, but also for the preparation of a healthy baby later. Your health before pregnancy will give negative or positive effect on your body. To prepare the body before you enter the pregnancy is the best. Consult with your doctor whether you need to decrease or menaikan weight to your ideal body weight to prepare for you this pregnancy. Because with a normal body weight, not too heavy or too over akan associated with a healthy pregnancy and fertility is the best. Nutrition food is good in preparing the pregnancy: Folic acid or Folat. Is a vitamin that can be found in the green leaved vegetables and cereals, fruits such as citrus fruits, wine, fruit and other sitrus. Or you can consume extra vitamins from your daily hours. The recommended dose is 400 per mikrogram. How to eat healthy. Once you prepare for pregnancy, so wherever possible, to start eating a more healthy and balanced diet food. Preparation for pregnancy, 3-4 months before conception (fertilization occurs) is a good time to start eating with a healthy way. Food is low fat, rich in fiber and vitamins folat should now be on the menu list of healthy foods you. Stop food or beverages that contain caffeine. Research states that consuming caffeine would reduce the likelihood of a woman to be pregnant. And caffeine also increase the likelihood of a miscarriage although more research is not yet ascertained, but you are grounded to stop or minimize it .. Caffeine can be found in coffee, tea, cocoa, and also some drugs flu or headache, so you should read the label before using. Stop alcohol, smoking and drugs that affect the poor baby. Alcohol, smoking and drugs such as cocaine / morphine effect on the pregnancy and the baby so when you prepare for pregnancy. Special food for pregnant? In science there is no special food that can enhance the pregnancy except for one that is: Kerang. Some scientists suggest to eat oysters because oysters contain zinc and zinc deficiency can affect fertility either women or men. But still eat healthy diet that is balanced is the best for your overall health and fertility of your only two kinds of obscene or food that is considered specific to pregnancy. Try to eat a balanced variety of foods with varying healthy balance in your diet. And sports will also help a healthy pregnancy, and usually women who do sports regularly before pregnancy, will continue in the program during pregnancy. Consult with your doctor is the best exercise for you. Remember also that age also affect the fertility of women, women's fertility will usually begin to decline after age 35 years and will decrease after 40 years and after 45 years will be difficult to get pregnant, even with the regular mensturasi.

What’s your competency? Any employer will let you know about it, but how to be with motherhood? After it is even harder, than most difficult work. How to know whether you can cope with it? Arrange an examination on your professional parental suitability and learn what you can.

Most likely, many will agree that it is not difficult to become parents. For this purpose you should not have either a certain position in a society, or life experience. Nobody will ask to show your diploma of vocational education, when you take away a baby from maternity home. Nobody will arrange an examination on your professional parental suitability. The question is how to become good parents? It is hard. Why?

Reasons of complexity

1. You will learn this nowhere

We do not talk about school or any other educational institutions of general character. After all, the subject is - how to bring up a child correctly, to help him becoming a Person. It is a question of how to understand his problems and troubles, find common language with him, grow up a useful citizen of society. Agree, this is not so easy.

2. Absence of motivation

Secondly, we do not have special desire to receive knowledge in this area. We are not accustomed to it either by our parents, or society we live in. In many respects we receive our knowledge of children education in a family where we were brought up. They say «like father like son». We behave ourselves in relation to our children the way we were brought up by our parents. But here it is necessary to reflect that, maybe our children deserve better relation. After all, these are our children! Whether it is possible to correct this situation? Certainly it is. There should be a desire and aspiration.

What to do, to become good parents for your children?

1. Search the best example and best council

Good parents are ready to search for council to bring up their children better. Where should you search? There are people who are able, at least, to try being good parents and they are successful in it. You can see this through results of their work, their children, their children’s families. Perhaps, there are such people among your relatives, colleagues or friends? If you see and know results of their children’s education, you can learn from them how they do it. What person will not want to impart experience and knowledge in this area with you, if you can estimate his efforts on advantage and, having told him about it, ask some councils on this theme.

2. Be cautious with literature

It is certainly possible to address to corresponding literature: various books, recommendations of teachers, but here you should be cautious. Cautious in respect that today there is a lot of councils about it and you can find literature everywhere. Believe that many councils of those who consider themselves as experts in this business, contradict each other at times. The main criterion are results these or that methods of children education lead to. Therefore here it is necessary to be 100 % assured that we choose right education methods, differently consequences can be pitiable.

3. Be an example

This is a very important point in chidlren’s education, it is difficult to overestimate it. It is not necessary to learn children to a principle «do like me», they do this practically since birth. Therefore throughout all time of child education, his formation as a person, you can bring up a daughter or son thtough your behaviour.

Sometimes it happens that someone says about our children: «dead spit of his/her father/mother» and this similarity noticed by other people, it not only external. Our children adopt our manner to speak, laugh, joke. They imitate us (since early age) in the way we behave with relatives, other people, neighbours. Children notice all our habits and, without suspecting, start to imitate them, because parents are the most important authority for them in early age.

4. Avoid «double standards»

Do you know, what disorient a child most of all? What irritates him, destabilises him in perception of world around and drops our authority in his eyes? If our words are out of sync with our affairs. If we teach a child one thing and result a very convincing argument in favour of it, and then our child sees or hears, how we act in another way. In this case all our words can appear not only useless, but even harmful.

Such tactics of behaviour, tactics of “double standards” irritates us when we face it in life (maybe on work or somewhere else). But in much bigger degree such behaviour of “double standards” irritates our children and does not do us honour as to their parents.

Well and to make your child seeing your example, it is necessary …

5. Find time for a child

Children require it. They miss, when we are not present, when we leave somewhere, when we work a lot. And though we work to provide our children with all necessary for life, it is important to remember that our children require not only meal, clothes, entertainment subjects, but also first of all our attention, time, councils and understanding.

Certainly, depending on age, requirements of our children vary. But if we wish to have close and confidential relations, they need to be arranged since early childhood. Then, when our children mature, have awkward age, thanks to good exchange of thoughts and confidential relations, we will be able to help them. Since childhood they will get used to the fact that their parents always find time for them, ready to postpone their affairs to listen to a child. And all this happens because parents love their children and prove them their love in word and deed.

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