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1. Hearing A woman's sexuality is socially influenced—that is, she heats up by discovering what turns her partner on, says Emily Nagoski, Ph.D., a sexuality educator at West Chester University. Your move: Be vocal. Moan when she hits the right spots during oral sex, gasp when you enter her. These sound effects will cue her feedback loop and rev up her arousal. 2. Sight Just like you, she can be turned on by a fleeting glance. "Women tend to respond genitally when they see anything sexual," says Nagoski. Your move: Porn is great if she's game, but catch her when she's in front of a mirror. Kiss the back of her neck and move your hands across her front. You'll heighten her sense of both sight and touch—a surefire route to a mind-blowing orgasm. 3. Smell The brain regions that control smell, memory, and sexual arousal are tightly linked, says Linda Banner, Ph.D., the author of Advanced Sexual Techniques. Your move: You may have moved on to a new cologne, but spray some of the old stuff across your bed. When she hits the pillow, it'll trigger steamy, tension-busting memories of those romps from your early dating days. 4. Taste Sweet treats on her tongue ring her brain's reward bells, making her ripe for arousal, according to a recent study from the University of Pittsburgh. Your move: Seduce her by hand-feeding her fruits with curious textures, like pomegranates or lychees. The sugar and unique feel of the fruit on her lips and tongue can serve up an arousing double shot of pleasure. 5. Touch You know the hot zones. But are you doing enough to stimulate the cool ones? "Most men forget about temperature," says Nagoski. Your move: Hold an ice cube in your palm and as it melts, drip it down her abdomen. To touch off a heat wave, place a piece of candied ginger in your mouth and lick her inner thigh. Bonus: A foot massage can trigger the nerves that connect with her genitals.

MIX IT UP

Exploring your sexuality can be a dead end if you don't keep one destination in mind: her happiness.

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THE DOWNWARD DOG

The purpose: Allows for deeper thrusts

How it works: She's facedown on the bed, hips raised

The benefit: This position creates a snug fit, "making you feel larger," says Rebecca Rosenblat, a sex therapist and the author of Seducing Your Man. It also puts pressure on the hard-to-reach pleasure zones just behind her vagina. To last longer, try "shallow thrusting and deep breathing," advises April Masini, author of Date out of Your League. "Exhale with each thrust." Hint: Don't be a battering ram. "Move your hips from side to side, too," says Diana Wiley, Ph.D., a sex therapist.

THE FACE-OFF

The purpose: Makes height differences disappear How it works: You sit on a chair or the edge of a bed, she faces you on your lap.

The benefit: Greater flexibility. "She can easily control the angle and depth of entry," says Wiley, "and this is a good way for a man to learn what sort of rhythm his partner prefers." Sitting is also great for marathon lovemaking because "no one has to worry about their legs or arms giving out on them," says Rosenblat. Hint: Your hands can roam; take advantage of the 8,000 nerves of the clitoris -- or the millions elsewhere on her body.

THE PRETZEL

The purpose: Blends the doggy and missionary styles

How it works: She lies on her left side. You kneel between her legs, curling her right leg around your right side and straddling her left leg. Use your hands to bring her toward you.

The benefit: The deeper penetration of doggy-style sex, without the loss of face-to-face contact. Also, ergonomics: "A lot of women can’t stand doggy-style, because it hurts their backs," says Rosenblat. Hint: Add manual stimulation. Your right arm is perfectly positioned to tuck under her right leg to lend a helping hand. "That's a can't-miss combination."

THE SHOULDER HOLDER

The purpose: Targets her G-spot, makes you feel bigger

How it works: She rests both legs on one of your shoulders.

The benefit: "Any position in which a woman raises her legs narrows the vagina," says Rosenblat. Slide her feet down to your chest, one foot on each of your pectoral muscles, and start her in a rocking side-to-side or up-and-down motion. She's in a perfect position to control how you stimulate her G-spot. Hint: Keep your sensors tuned: "If she's pushing a body part into you, she digs the position," Rosenblat says. "If she's pulling back, try something else."

THE COWGIRL'S HELPER

The purpose: Puts her in control, lets you lend a helping hand

How it works: She squats on top, raising and lowering herself with her thighs. You support her by holding her hips and rising to meet each thrust.

The benefit: She'll appreciate your ceding the sexual remote control. "This move allows her to choose between shallow and deep thrusting," says Rosenblat. "Shallow will stimulate the front third of her vagina, the most sensitive part." Hint: It takes strong thighs for her to maintain this position, so use your arms to help assume some of the heavy lifting.

Sex shouldn't resemble Naked Twister. Too much twisting and contorting can leave a woman feeling like a sexless member of Cirque du Soleil. "Unlike men, women can lose an orgasm almost in the midst of having one," says Ian Kerner, Ph.D., author of She Comes First and He Comes Next. The solution? This simple series of positions, designed to help you flow naturally from move to move without ending up like a flesh pretzel.

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Missionary

It's tame, but it's a natural starter because of strong eye contact, says Kerner. "But men often ejaculate faster because of the friction." To last longer and keep her happy, switch to a move that maintains clitoral pressure without so much thrusting.

Spider

Sit back and pull her toward you while you both lift your knees. "Physically, it allows her to feel a deeper, more intense, more intimate stimulation than missionary, with less friction," says Candida Royalle, author of How to Tell a Naked Man What to Do.

Reverse Cowgirl

Encourage her to turn around and face away from you. This creates G-spot stimulation for her, and the change will help you hold out longer. If she seems uncomfortable on top, resume the spider or try the spork, two natural transitions

Doggy-style

"It's the most arousing position for men, because it's the most primal," says Linda Banner, Ph.D., author of Advanced Sexual Techniques. The angle also allows for deeper penetration, which ups your chances of stimulating her G-spot.

If she goes to bed without experiencing each of the orgasms below, you haven't done your job

Women will put up with one, maybe two, nights without an orgasm from you. But you'd better know how to hit her G-spot before too long or you'll be getting cozy with her answering machine. Here's why: For 70% of women, penetration alone is not enough to bring them to climax. That's a hell of a lot of women walking the earth with no satisfaction. See a way to get laid more? Understand her orgasm(s), as well as when and how to give them, and you'll be a more confident man with a lot more sex in your life. Consider this your contribution to womankind.

CLITORAL ORGASMS

Best tool to give her one: Your fingers. Use the middle digit on your dominant hand, with help from your pointer. Always use the padded middle of the finger, not the tip or nail.

Initial technique: Find out what her motion of choice is—either little circles or flicks upward or downward. Pay attention to nonverbal cues (like gyrating or tensing).

Troubleshooting: Lubrication is crucial at this point. If occasionally dipping into her well doesn't work, reach for the lube. Spit works just fine in a pinch.

Drive her over the edge: While continuing with her stroke of choice, make your touch broader by using more of your hand. Add a bit more pressure until you bring her to climax.

Still not getting there? Call in a backup.

Second-best tool: Her vibrator. Use mostly the head of the toy, rather than the shaft. Choose between the classic ridged variety and the smoother bullet style. (The alien-like ones with all the attachments are for when she's alone.)

Initial technique: Rub the vibrator up and down along her entire private part, slowly. Use light pressure and a low setting. Don't be scared of the vibrator—you need to hold it firmly in order to satisfy her.

Troubleshooting: Hold the toy before using it, to warm it up. (Cold is a definite turnoff.) Remember to ask if she wants it turned up or down a notch. And click on some music to drown out the hum.

Drive her over the edge: Focus all your attention on the clitoris. Then, as she gets more into it, start making longer movements from the clitoris to the G-spot and back.

VAGINAL ORGASMS

Best tool to give her one: Your tongue. Use the tip and flat middle of your tongue as the primary source of stimulation.

Initial technique: Make firm motions with the tip and middle of your tongue. Then slip the clit into your mouth and massage with your tongue, as if sucking on a Tic Tac.

Troubleshooting: Don't be shy about using your hands to hold her "lips" open—that's the only way you'll get the very best access. Drive her over the edge: As she becomes excited, broaden your strokes and make them firmer. When she's close to orgasm, use your fingers to rub her G-spot as well.

Still not getting there? Call in backup.

Second-best tool: Your penis. To please her, you need to focus your energy on what you do with the head, not the shaft. The ridge that separates the head from the shaft feels particularly good to women.

Initial technique: Use your penis to make short motions in and out of her vagina. As she becomes excited, add longer thrusts. Remember to keep the clitoral stimulation going as well.

Troubleshooting: Contrary to what you've been taught, deeper thrusts do not equal a better orgasm, at least for her. In fact, once past the G-spot, there's not much within the vagina that stimulates pleasure.

Drive her over the edge: While using short thrusts, grab hold of the base of your penis and press upward, so there is more pressure on her G-spot. Continue with short thrusting motions, gradually getting faster and faster until she climaxes.

MOST IMPORTANT TIP: FIND HER G-SPOT

The most elusive part of the female anatomy is a ridged surface — approximately the size of a nickel—about two inches into the vagina, on the front wall. You can locate the G-spot by inserting two fingers into the vagina, palm up (to your second knuckle).

While many women’s supplement arsenal consists of only a multi-vitamin, protein supplements have been becoming increasingly popular amongst young and old women alike. If weight loss is a concern, there are a variety of protein supplements that focus specifically on losing weight. A better portion of these protein supplements contain very little fat or additives.

Consider the following on why you should use protein supplements for weight loss:

Convenience. Protein supplements are extremely easy to prepare and digest. Many times they can take place of a snack or even a meal – simply throw in your protein powder along with water (or milk) into a shaker up, do a few shakes, and your protein is ready! Best of all, protein powder comes in a variety of flavors depending on the brand you take such as chocolate, vanilla, and strawberry.

Affordability. A 5lb tub of whey protein costs about $40. While that may seem expensive, keep in mind that there are about 60 servings in a 5lb tub of whey protein. That works outs to less than $1 per serving, which is extremely affordable.

Effectiveness. Protein boosts your metabolism, which is the rate in which your body burns and uses food as energy. The faster your metabolism works, the less food your body will be able to store as fat.

Protein also promotes learn muscle growth. This doesn’t mean you’ll start building huge muscles like a bodybuilder, what it means though is that your muscles will begin to take shape and you’ll see an outline of where they are – no more flabby arms!

When you are in the gym working on your trimming down your figure, you should keep in mind that whey protein contains a high amount of glutamine and BCAAs (branched chain amino acids) – the building blocks of muscles. Taking whey protein increases your muscle mass, lowers the time it takes to recovery from exercise, and boosts your stamina!

So, what are the most effective protein supplements? Consider one of these:

Muscle Milk Light – Muscle Milk light is designed especially for women. It's low calorie and tastes like a milkshake. A trademark blend known found inside Muscle Milk Light called LeanLipids encourages fat loss by burning more MCTs (Medium Chain Triglycerides) as muscle energy instead of fat. It also helps by having less of your long-chain polyunsaturated fatty acids being stored as fat. The enzymes found in muscle milk light enable these lipids to be even more functional.

Ultra Whey Pro – Each scoop of of Ultra Whey Protein whey has 22 grams of protein. The whey blend is comprised of whey protein isolates, whey concentrate, whey hydrolysates, and glutamine peptides. Flavors consist of chocolate, strawberry, and vanilla.

Pro Complex – Pro Complex protein has a wide variety of essential vitamins and minerals, while fueling you with it’s multi-protein blend with more BCAA’s and Glutamine. Every serving of Pro complex has 60 grams of the highest quality protein available. Flavors include chocolate, strawberry, vanilla, and rocky road.

Optimum Nutrition 100% Whey Gold Standard – One of the most popular protein powders on the market today, 100% Whey Gold Standard has ON’s proprietary blend consisting of microfiltered whey protein isolates, ultrafiltered whey proteinc oncentreate, ion-exchange whey protein isolates, and HydroWhey hydrolyzed whey peptides.

It has nearly 24 grams of protein in just over a one ounce serving – that means that protein represents 79% of it’s weight. Available flavors include rocky road, vanilla ice cream, strawberry , chocolate, tropical punch, and french vanilla cream.

Elite Whey Protein – This whey protein has a great mixture of whey protein concentrates, whey peptides, and ion-exchange whey protein isolates. Elite Whey also includes a proprietary digestive enzyme blend, as well as Zytric, that helps amplify absorption. Favors consist of chocolate fudge, chocolate, pina colada, vanilla, berry blast, and butter cream toffee.

So next time you're thinking about trying a weight loss pill, consider trying protein supplements instead!

The importance of keeping your skin healthy can't be overemphasized. It's the body's first defense against disease and infection, and it protects your internal organs from injuries. It is, in fact, the largest organ in the body. The skin helps regulate body temperature and prevents excess fluid loss, and it also helps your body remove excess water and salt.

Skin conditions can affect anyone—young and old, men and women. Acne, psoriasis and eczema are just a few examples of common skin disorders. The good news is that there are a number of simple ways to keep skin healthy, and there also are now many options available to treat skin conditions, if treatment is necessary.

If you think you may have a skin problem, or need to learn how to better care for your skin, consultation with a dermatologist—a physician who specializes in treating the skin and keeping it healthy—may be in order. Skin problems can be difficult to diagnose because many skin conditions share similar symptoms. An evaluation is key to effective treatment.

The Structure of Skin

To understand how to keep your skin healthy, it may help to learn about your skin's structure.

Skin is composed of two layers: the epidermis (the outermost layer of skin—about the thickness of a piece of paper) and the dermis (the middle layer). The thickness of the dermis is variable depending on the location. For example, eyelid dermis is quite thin, but back dermis is about 1/2 inch thick. The epidermis has four layers: the stratum corneum, the granular layer, the squamous cell layer and the basal cell layer.

The stratum corneum or outer layer of the epidermis is the layer of skin that can be seen and felt. Proteins known as keratin, a fatty, waterproof envelope, and flat corneocyte cells make up the stratum corneum. This layer is the barrier between your body and the outside world.
The granular layer produces protein and lipids (fat) for the stratum corneum.
The squamous cell layer produces keratin for the stratum corneum and also transports water. Friction blisters occur in the squamous cell layer.
The basal cell layer is the lowest layer of the epidermis. This is where the skin cells are reproduced and give rise to the more superficial layers of the epidermis. The most common form of skin cancer, basal cell carcinoma, arises from this cell layer. Melanocytes, which produce melanin, or skin pigment, sit along this layer among these cells. Melanoma, one of the two main groups of skin cancer, originates from these pigment-producing cells.

It takes about one month for skin cells to move from the basal cell layer to the top of the stratum corneum and slough off. One to two layers of these skin cells are sloughed off every day.

The dermis is the deeper layer of skin. It is a diverse combination of blood vessels, nerves, hair follicles and sebaceous (or oil) glands. The proteins collagen and elastin are found in the dermis. They provide support and elasticity to the skin. The sun's rays can break down these proteins and, eventually, the skin begins to wrinkle and sag.

The subcutaneous layer, or subcutis, is a layer of fatty tissue that provides nourishment to the dermis and upper layers of skin. It also conserves body heat and cushions internal organs against trauma. Blood vessels, nerves, sweat glands and deeper hair follicles extend from the dermis into the fat (hypodermis).

Look Your Best—Limit Sun Exposure

Facial skin typically looks its best during a woman's 20s. As you age, your skin becomes thinner and often drier. Thinning skin is a result of a breakdown of collagen and elastin fibers. As it ages, skin loses elasticity -- especially if it has been exposed to excessive sunlight -- and becomes more fragile and dry. However, there are a number of dietary and lifestyle changes that you can make to help keep your skin healthy and young-looking.

Because exposure to the sun causes about 80 percent of the skin changes associated with aging, protecting the skin from the sun is the single most important skin care practice you can adopt. Significant exposure to the sun will wrinkle and dry the skin. Uneven pigmentation—from freckles to small or large brown spots—is another side effect of frequent sunning. Melasma, commonly associated with pregnancy, is brought out by the sun and produces large brown patches on the forehead and cheeks.

The most serious consequence of sun exposure is skin cancer. Skin cancer is the most common type of cancer, making up nearly half of all diagnosed cases of cancer, according to the American Cancer Society (ACS). Most sun damage occurs prior to the age of 18, but skin cancer can take up to 20 or more years to develop; children who experience as few as two to three sunburns are believed to have an increased risk of developing skin cancer later in life.