Build a Better Orgasm

1. Hearing A woman's sexuality is socially influenced—that is, she heats up by discovering what turns her partner on, says Emily Nagoski, Ph.D., a sexuality educator at West Chester University. Your move: Be vocal. Moan when she hits the right spots during oral sex, gasp when you enter her. These sound effects will cue her feedback loop and rev up her arousal. 2. Sight Just like you, she can be turned on by a fleeting glance. "Women tend to respond genitally when they see anything sexual," says Nagoski. Your move: Porn is great if she's game, but catch her when she's in front of a mirror. Kiss the back of her neck and move your hands across her front. You'll heighten her sense of both sight and touch—a surefire route to a mind-blowing orgasm. 3. Smell The brain regions that control smell, memory, and sexual arousal are tightly linked, says Linda Banner, Ph.D., the author of Advanced Sexual Techniques. Your move: You may have moved on to a new cologne, but spray some of the old stuff across your bed. When she hits the pillow, it'll trigger steamy, tension-busting memories of those romps from your early dating days. 4. Taste Sweet treats on her tongue ring her brain's reward bells, making her ripe for arousal, according to a recent study from the University of Pittsburgh. Your move: Seduce her by hand-feeding her fruits with curious textures, like pomegranates or lychees. The sugar and unique feel of the fruit on her lips and tongue can serve up an arousing double shot of pleasure. 5. Touch You know the hot zones. But are you doing enough to stimulate the cool ones? "Most men forget about temperature," says Nagoski. Your move: Hold an ice cube in your palm and as it melts, drip it down her abdomen. To touch off a heat wave, place a piece of candied ginger in your mouth and lick her inner thigh. Bonus: A foot massage can trigger the nerves that connect with her genitals.